Doris Day's Love Life Will Break Your Heart

Doris Day's Love Life Will Break Your Heart

Dec 01, 2020Rita

From singing with several bands to acting in amazing musical films, Doris Day was one of the top stars of the 50s and 60s. But there is much more to know about this woman, from her troubled love life to years invested in charity and animal welfare, keep reading to find out why her romantic history was truly tragic! 

Image Credit: Getty Images / Singer and actress Doris Day poses for a portrait circa 1940 in New York.


Born on April 3rd, 1922, she was born Doris Von Kappelhoff in Cincinnati, Ohio. From an early age, Doris was passionate about the performing arts and while she was growing up she studied ballet and tap dancing. Her natural talent was impressive, and he even won a local dance contest in her early teens, but soon everything would change.

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Image Credits: Getty Images / Hulton Archive | Portrait of American movie and television star, singer, and a friend to all the animals Doris Day as she wears a flower brooch, circa 1966.

Even though she dreamed of being a professional dancer, in 1937 she was involved in a car accident which left her with problems in one of her legs, thus shattering her dream of pursuing a career in this field. But she wasn’t going to give up on her future in entertainment, and soon began taking singing and voice lessons.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Martin Mills | Actress Doris Day poses for a portrait circa late 1960's.


During her teenage years, she had the opportunity to take a singing gig on the radio and decided to change her last name to Day, to make it more appealing to the audiences. Soon after, she began working as a vocalist with Barney Rapp’s and Bob Crosby’s bands, however, this was just the beginning!

Image Credits: Getty Images / Keystone | American singer-actress Doris Day (originally Doris Von Kappelhoff) attending a reception at Claridges Hotel in London, April 1955.

In 1940, Doris joined Les Brown’s band and quickly rose to fame with numerous popular recordings, being the most famous “Sentimental Journey”. Seven years later, Doris took the leap and became a solo artist, which can be considered one of the main reasons she managed to achieve great success, along with clear and emotional singing.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Hulton Archive | American Singer and Actress Doris Day, 01.05.1968.


During the mid-40s, Doris was invited to sing at a Hollywood party, whose attendees included songwriters Jule Styne and Sammy Cahn. After an emotional performance of the song “Embraceable You”, Styne arranged for a screen test as he was incredibly impressed by her singing skills.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Silver Screen Collection | American actress and singer Doris Day sits cross-legged and barefoot in a rattan chair, circa 1955.

This party, and Doris’ singing abilities, as well as the way she mesmerized Styne, allowed her to land her first movie credit on 1948’s “Romance on the High Seas”. The movie’s director, Michael Curtiz, placed Doris under a personal contract with Warner Brothers, and so her magical acting career began developing.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Hulton Archive | American actor Doris Day with mutt co-star Hobo on the set of director Charles Walters's film, 'Please Don't Eat the Daisies'. Also pictured is an unshaven toy poodle standing up on his hind legs.


Between 1950 and 1953, Doris gave her everything in the musical movie scene, and it paid out. “Tea for Two”, “Lullaby of Broadway”, “On Moonlight Bay”, “By the Light of the Silvery Moon”, and “Calamity Jane” took the audiences by their feet, and her records “It’s Magic” and “Secret Love” quickly became hits.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Bettman | Actress and singer Doris Day.

"I'll remember this to my grave. We all walked into a room to see the screen tests. The first screen test was Marion Hutton's. [...] Then on the screen came Doris Day. I can only tell you, the screen just exploded. There was absolutely no question. A great star was born and the rest is history,” Sammy Cahn said.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Hulton Archive | American singer and actress Doris Day smiling as she signs her name in cement by her handprints, in front of Mann's (formerly Grauman's) Chinese Theater, on Hollywood Boulevard, Hollywood, California.


For four years straight, Doris was voted Top Box-Office Female Star, and for ten years straight, she was among the Top 10. Unmatched by any other previous or current artists, Doris Day took the decades of the 40s, 50s, and 60s by their feet and the audiences were loving every bit of it.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Archive Photos | American actress and singer Doris Day playing with a dog, circa 1950.

However, when she began working in more controversial movies, her box-office appeal slipped. This didn’t stop her from still starring in PG-rated movies such as “Move Over Darling” and “The Glass Bottom Boat”, and until 1968 she kept acting in the movies, with her last one being “With Six You Get Egg-Roll”.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Silver Screen Collection | American actress Doris Day as Josie Minick in 'The Ballad Of Josie', directed by Andrew V McLaglen, 1967.


Throughout her beautiful career, Doris Day’s personal life had some ups and downs, and her love life was filled with troubled and turbulent men. Having been married four times, her love life and the things she went through for love will break your heart.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Universal | Doris Day lies in the arms of Rock Hudson in a scene from the film 'Send Me No Flowers', 1964.


Doris met her first husband, Al Jorden, at the age of 16. The trombonist, who was initially branded as a “creep” by the Golden Girl, was not approved by her mother, however, over the years the two fell in love and got married in 1941. Doris’ nightmare so begins, with jealousy and arguments, the marriage was doomed from the start.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Silver Screen Collection | American actress Doris Day in a fur-trimmed coat, circa 1963.

Jorden’s real character started coming up, and his jealous streaks became too much for the singer, who would suffer tremendously from them. His behavior kept getting worse with time, and the breaking point came when Doris fell pregnant, which made Jorden furious. After their son Terry was born, the pair divorced in 1943.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Hulton Archive | American actor and singer Doris Day smiling as she sits next to her son, Terry, in a fire truck, Cincinnati, Ohio. Day was visiting relatives in her hometown of Cincinnati while promoting the film 'By the Light of the Silvery Moon.'


Three years after her divorce, Doris married the saxophonist George Weidler, but not before causing some scandals by sharing hotel rooms while they were still not married. Weidler was not violent like her previous husband, but he was a cheater who resented being a stepfather to Terry.

Image Credits: Getty Images / George Rinhart / Corbis | (Original Caption) W.B. star and radio lark of the Bob Hope show in a bride's outfit of lace and tulle.

According to some reports from the UK Telegraph, Weidler “thought that his wife was now too big a star for the marriage to work,” and he didn’t want to be called Mr. Doris Day. His jealousy and resentment led the couple to drift apart, and eventually get divorced in 1949.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Silver Screen Collection | American actress Doris Day, circa 1960.


By the time Doris was 29 years old, she married her then-agent, Marty Melcher. Their relationship was not bad, however, Melcher controlled everything in her professional life. He pushed her into taking roles that would make her earn big money, so he could then embezzle the funds from her bank account. 

Image Credits: Getty Images / Darlene Hammond / Archive Photos | Actress and singer Doris Day and her husband Martin Melcher (1915 - 1968) attend an Academy Awards party held at the Beverly Hilton Hotel in Hollywood, California, 4th April 1960.

When Melcher died, Doris found out that he had embezzled her $20 million fortune. Even after his passing, Melcher was still haunting Day, as he had signed her up for several seasons on a show that she was forced to comply with in order to try and recover a small percentage of the money he had stolen from her.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Jay Scott / BIPs | American actress Doris Day with husband Marty Melcher at the film premiere of 'A Star Is Born' featuring Judy Garland.


In 1976, Doris married the “the most marvelous” man she had ever met, Barry Comden, who was 12 years her junior. The couple seemed to have hit it off well, and we know how much Doris needed a good man in her life, however, the pair eventually divorced five years into their marriage due to "being incompatible".

Image Credits: Getty Images / Tom Wargacki / WireImage | Doris Day (1922 - 2019) and husband Barry Comden at the Pierre Hotel.

According to the Sunday Mail, one of the reasons the couple split up was Doris’ love for animals, with Comden saying "She had 14 dogs, and the final straw was when I was kicked out of bed to make way for Tiger, a poodle." According to him, Doris liked the dogs’ company better than his.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Tom Wargacki / WireImage | Doris Day and husband Barry Comden at the Pierre Hotel.


Doris’ only child also suffered a terrible childhood, mostly due to the men his mother associated and married with. Born on February 8th, 1942, Terry managed to overcome his difficult upbringing and became a music producer, who was responsible for several hit songs for the bands Byrds and the Beach Boys.

Image Credits: Getty Images / David Mcgough / DMI / The LIFE Picture Collection | Singer/actress Doris Day (1922 - 2019) and son Terry Melcher.

Terry also worked with well-renowned artists such as Jimmy Boyd, the Mamas & the Papas, and Pat Boone. In 2004, Terry passed away at the age of 62. He was survived by his mother, who said “losing my dear son, Terry. He was such a huge part of my life, and I miss him all the time.”

Image Credits: Getty Images / Hulton Archive | American actress Doris Day with her son, American rock producer and songwriter Terry Melcher (1942 - 2004), early 1970s. Melcher also served as the executive producer of his mother's television series 'The Doris Day Show' from 1968 - 1972.


Many people may not know, but Charles Manson was an aspiring singer and songwriter, and through his association with the Beach Boys, Melcher was considering signing him. According to The Guardian, Melcher eventually backed off and led to Manson being infuriated with him. Mike Love, a founder of the Beach Boys, describes this ordeal in his book “Good Vibrations”.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Bettman | Terrence P. "Terry" Melcher, 27-year-old son of actress Doris Day attends the Los Angeles County grand jury.

“Manson was also in the car one day when Dennis dropped Terry off at his rented home at 10050 Cielo Drive, at the top of a steep hill in the Benedict Canyon area.” This is the mansion where the Sharon Tate story unfolded. 

Image Credits: Getty Images / Michael Ochs Archives | Photo of Terry Melcher Photo.


According to Mike Love, “The move was no accident. Terry, Doris’ only child, was extremely close to his mom. He had told her about Manson – and about some of his antics, and that Manson had been to the house on Cielo and she insisted he move out.”

Image Credits: Getty Images / Jim Smeal / Ron Galella Collection | Doris Day (1922 - 2019), Terry Melcher and wife during First Annual Golden Cypress Awards at Hyatt Regency Hotel in Monterey, California, United States.

In his book, the Beach Boys’ founder said it was Doris Day’s insistence and motherly feelings that made Terry Melcher move away from the house, stating in his book, “A mother’s intuition, perhaps, and it may have saved his life.” This is one of the reasons why we should always follow our instincts.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Hulton Archive | American actor and singer Doris Day smiles and laughs as she sits on a fence in front of a house with her son, Terry. Day wears sandals, trousers and has her hair tied back in a scarf.


Born in 1983, Ryan Melcher is Doris’ only grandson and heir, and at the time of Doris’ passing, he came forward claiming that he was being kept away from her by her managers. When her charity, The Doris Day Animal Foundation, announced her death, Ryan took to Facebook to express his feelings.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Paul Harris | Doris Day with her grandson Ryan Melcher 4, the son of her only child Terry Melcher at a press conference at the hotel she owns in Carmel, California July 16, 1985.

“I received the news of my grandmother’s passing like many of you — I awoke and read the news in a social media feed Monday morning. Sadly, due to a divorce that I was thrown into the middle of while still an underaged child, I have not been allowed to see my grandmother for quite some time,” he wrote.


According to him, the last time he was able to speak with Doris was after his father’s death in 2004, when the singer and actress met him for dinner. When he tried to meet his grandmother, he was intercepted by a manager who asked him “Why do you want to see Doris?”

Ryan explained, “I was shocked not only at the question but also that it was coming from someone who was a stranger and outsider. I just responded, "um....she is my grandmother! He replied, ‘I'm afraid you aren't going to be able to see your grandmother’, citing the divorce between my parents as his excuse.” What a tragic story!

At the age of 97, Doris Day passed away after a lifetime of success, but also terrible misfortune. She will forever be a Hollywood icon and a silver screen Golden Girl, whose life and career will inspire many to come. What do you think about her legacy? Leave us a comment and be sure to click the share button! 

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